Stop minding someone else’s business.

Everyday remind yourself to stop getting caught up in the business of others. The quickest way to not achieving your own goals is getting caught up in what someone else is doing or not doing? I’m struck by the amount of energy, time, and attention people give to getting into other people’s business. From CNN to Access Hollywood everyone is caught up in the failings or successes of others. It makes me wonder what basic need is being met so many people put forth so much effort to focus on someone else. Maybe it distracts a person from fears or disappointments. Maybe it lets them off the hook for not living their lives to the fullest. Maybe people simply do not like their lives and find it quite boring so they look elsewhere for some excitement.

How can you grow as a person if you are constantly living your life through the what others are doing? How can you learn about who you are when you never take any time to get to know yourself, but you know everything about Jon and Kate. Stop being a voyeur and live your own life. Find out who you really are and deal with it. If your life is boring then it is up to you to make it more exciting. If you are not getting the things you want out of life then it is up to you to change what you are doing and make it happen. The bottom line is simple.

Mind your own business and get completely psyched about your own life.

Change is in the air

The buzz word today seems to center on change. It is time to change your diet. You need to change your hair style. Sometimes you are forced to change your job. We need to change how we use energy and become greener. Our GPS devices can change our route depending on oncoming traffic. There are articles by the thousands all over the Internet on change. Recent conversations about change reached its height last year when it became the national battle cry during the United States presidential race that propelled President Obama into the Whitehouse.

So why is it so hard for change to really happen? Why are so many people yelling, angry, and afraid when faced with change? Everyday I see the winds of change getting viscously attacked and demonized. You would think that change is a serial killer or that change stole everyone’s 401K money and moved to Belize never to be seen again. The amount of lip service that is given to the need for change and the amount of energy invested to combat change is down right crazy. No wonder the nation appears neurotic and in need of some strong medication.

If it were not for change there would be tens of thousands of people devastated annually by diseases like Polio if the fight against national immunization efforts had succeeded. If it were not for change we would still be riding around in a horse and buggy going five miles an hour while the Lexus you are driving would be a mere fantasy in the latest science fiction story. If change had not been fought for some one hundred years ago women today would still be unable to vote. Do you really think that if social change had not come to the United States I would have had the opportunity to earn my doctorate from The University of Miami?

Change is a requirement to survive just as oxygen is a necessity to live. Change provides opportunities for positive things you want in your life to happen. Trying to stop change is like trying to put out a fire with gasoline. All too often I witness people expending a great deal of effort trying to stop change while fantasizing about the good old days of a simpler time. Other than the fact that it is impossible to achieve, that seems like a total waste of time and energy.

If I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard someone say that change is hard I would be living in Belize sipping on a drink overlooking the beach with all the money I need for the rest of my life. Whoever said life and change were supposed to be easy? Change can be difficult and challenging. Change requires sacrifice. However, Change is not the boogey man sitting in your dark closet waiting to bounce on you during the night. Change is the fuel that keeps life moving. Even it you decide to sit on the sidelines passively watching you will still be pulled along. There are two questions you must ask yourself.

What are you willing to do to embrace inevitable change? What are you willing to sacrifice in order for this change to bring success to your life?

Dr. Wilson

Is it none, one, or two, or maybe more?

Something happened to the other day that had not happened in quite some time. The moment gave me pause and motivated me to kick off this blog to speak about the comments people say to others. I guess often times the true meaning of comments from others may totally elude the receiver. The person doing the commenting probably doesn’t even realize what they are really saying. The person receiving the comment probably isn’t aware of the ever so gentle, didn’t mean anything by it, excuse me please criticism that was made only with the best of intentions. None the less, the comments somehow serve as a true indication of what the receiver needs to change regarding their character, likes, taste, or habits.

Maybe the comments are not about the same thing nor are they even related. Maybe it was a comment about your clothes, weight, make-up, car, job, school, house, apartment, friends, family, boyfriend, girlfriend, cell phone, coffee, furniture, hair style, bust size, beer choice, lawn, neighborhood, birthplace, travel likes, travel dislikes, etc etc etc. The list of comments can go on forever.

As the title of this blog states, is it none, one, two, or maybe more? I’m assuming this question is very important since inquiries about this always seem to keep coming back up during conversations. Honestly, does it really matter if a man wears no earrings, one earring, two earrings, or more? Does it mean anything if the man wears the earring in his left or right ear? What happens if the man wears both earrings in one ear? What is the earring is in his nose or lip? What if the earring is a stud or a hoop? Does the size of the stud or hoop matter? What about the cost of the earring? Yada Yada Yada

Maybe it is me and I missed that class way back during grad school. What in the world do little pieces of metal in your ear(s) have to do with anything? Why do others feel compelled to comment on something that has nothing to do with them. What does it matter to you what I put in my ear unless you are buying me a new pair of earrings and don’t know which ones to get?”

Dr. JW