Something happened to the other day that had not happened in quite some time. The moment gave me pause and motivated me to kick off this blog to speak about the comments people say to others. I guess often times the true meaning of comments from others may totally elude the receiver. The person doing the commenting probably doesn’t even realize what they are really saying. The person receiving the comment probably isn’t aware of the ever so gentle, didn’t mean anything by it, excuse me please criticism that was made only with the best of intentions. None the less, the comments somehow serve as a true indication of what the receiver needs to change regarding their character, likes, taste, or habits.
Maybe the comments are not about the same thing nor are they even related. Maybe it was a comment about your clothes, weight, make-up, car, job, school, house, apartment, friends, family, boyfriend, girlfriend, cell phone, coffee, furniture, hair style, bust size, beer choice, lawn, neighborhood, birthplace, travel likes, travel dislikes, etc etc etc. The list of comments can go on forever.
As the title of this blog states, is it none, one, two, or maybe more? I’m assuming this question is very important since inquiries about this always seem to keep coming back up during conversations. Honestly, does it really matter if a man wears no earrings, one earring, two earrings, or more? Does it mean anything if the man wears the earring in his left or right ear? What happens if the man wears both earrings in one ear? What is the earring is in his nose or lip? What if the earring is a stud or a hoop? Does the size of the stud or hoop matter? What about the cost of the earring? Yada Yada Yada
Maybe it is me and I missed that class way back during grad school. What in the world do little pieces of metal in your ear(s) have to do with anything? Why do others feel compelled to comment on something that has nothing to do with them. What does it matter to you what I put in my ear unless you are buying me a new pair of earrings and don’t know which ones to get?”
Dr. JW
So does the comment someone made to you serve as an indication of what you need to change?
I hope not. Your earrings are part of what makes you YOU.
Comment by Butter Sweet 1 — November 4, 2009 @ 2:41 PM |
I can recall having this convo about earrings earlier today, and the thought was at one time if you wear it on the right side your announcing your Gay, the left straight, and the question was brought up, what if your wearing them in both ears… to which no answer is offered.
Rappers, Enteratiners, athletes have made the bling in both ears a wide statement, on these men in does not detract from there shall we say Manliness.
However society has taboos and people fall victim to perceptions, actually slaves to it.
And they develop there opionions on how many ear rings a guy should have.. to which I say So What !!
•Is it none, one, or two, or maybe more
Rant over
Comment by aneville — November 11, 2009 @ 12:26 AM |
This is an extremely relative discussion. I know a few attorneys, teachers, and other professionals who have chosen to elect to stop wearing their one, two, ear rings. None were in the lip or eye brow, but nonetheless, have chosen to lose their individualism and convert to the norm of somebody else’s standards. Personally I dont have a problem with one or two…but when it goes into the tongue, brow, lips or excessive, I do begin consciously to discredit validity to certain professions. However, if one is excessive as my mechanic, mall person,…then it honestly doesnt come across my mind. I do realize this is somewhat stereotypical, but stereotypes are based on the truth and have subliminally played a role in what we like, accept, dislike and dont accept. So the discussion is broad and even though we have the right to wear and express ourselves as we see fit; but we also should recognize there are always consequences for our actions….and there will always be discrimination of some sort. So…what do we choose?
Comment by babyrgs — November 11, 2009 @ 10:53 PM |
What the heck difference does it make? That whole ear ring in the left ear right ear meaning straight or gay was sooo long ago does anyone even remember which is which? Does anyone really even care? Well I guess there are some out there who do or the comment would not have been made. The traditional aspects of how men and women should or are expected to adorn themselves have long since gone the way of the doo doo, but I myself am hanging on to those old ways (some of them anyway). I guess the bottom line is this society (this world) is all about self expression and men wearing ear rings is part of that self expression. I don’t think an ear ring is any less masculine than is wearing a pink shirt so lets all just move on. In the grand scheme of things there are sooo many more important things to be concerned with like homelessness and debt that could choke an elephant so an ear ring……
Comment by 2thdktr — November 13, 2009 @ 9:54 PM |